Submission as a Lifestyle

The S word—submission—kind of has a bad rep, but truthfully, grasping the concept of submission and living it—is a very fulfilling lifestyle.

It may seem ominous and understandably there will be questions. In this blog I hope to ease your heart and answer the most popular of questions regarding submission as a lifestyle.

What does a lifestyle of submission mean?
A lifestyle of submission translates to freedom. Freedom from the devil, the world and our flesh—freedom from addictions—freedom from self-absorption. This kind of freedom allows us to draw near to God—to know and love Him as the scripture in Matthew 22:37 says we should.

You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind.

What does a lifestyle of submission look like?

Submission as a lifestyle needs to have its foundation in three truths.

• It’s about the heart—check and realign your heart attitude to embrace submission
•  It’s about trust—trusting God is good, and only has good for you
• It’s about all—loving God with all your heart, soul, mind, and strength

Living this lifestyle entails the giving over (and not taking it back) of our heart, soul and life to God daily—allowing Him to be Lord over every detail of our life. Giving Him the controls.

Why should we willingly live this lifestyle?
We must first settle, in our self, to know that a life of submission is not a choice. Why? Because when we give our life to God and ask Him to be Lord—we now live in a kingdom—where God is King—He’s the ruler.

We choose this lifestyle because of love. He loves us—went to the cross—because of love. And because He loves us, just as an earthly father should love and care for his children—God, our Father has our best interest in His heart—He will never steer us in the wrong direction. God is always for us—constantly faithful. Submitting our life to His kingship signifies our love for Him. (For more on the subject of God’s faithfulness: click here to read) God’s Faithfulness is Not On Trial 

How do we live a lifestyle of submission?
We decide to trust God—giving Him everything—all the time.
Trust is a choice—be willing to make it!

In the last blog The S Word (click here to read) we learned a lifestyle of submission first starts with surrender. It’s when we’ve tried all these different ways to live our life and be in control, but yet being our own lord is not working—something’s missing—so we surrender.

Most all of our problems can stem from an un-submitted heart, soul and life. A submitted lifestyle brings the freedom and fulfillment of rest, peace and joy to life.

Please be encouraged to love God with all your heart, soul and life—thus submitting!

Romans 10:3
For they being ignorant of God’s righteousness, and seeking to establish their own righteousness, have not submitted to the righteousness of God.

Skillful Living 101—22 Parenting

Parenting . . . the hardest most complex job on earth. Yet parenting holds the highest value and reward of anything we might possibly do with our life.

Psalm 127:3

Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward.

As a parent I am so grateful to have an instruction manual on child rearing—as I’m sure all parents are.

Unfortunately—most instruction manuals or directions don’t get read until completely necessary. If you’re young—please be encouraged to read the manual now! If you are in the middle of raising children—read the manual now! If your children are young adults—especially read the manual now! If you are a grandparent—read the manual now! It’s never too early or too late!

Being on this end of life where all but one of my kids are grown adults, I sometimes bemoan the fact that there are no “do-overs” when it comes to raising children.

If your kids are grown and your heart is heavy—caught up in regretfully recounting your mistakes—remember there is no condemnation to those who are in Christ. Ask for forgiveness—forgive yourself and do God’s best from here on out. God is a faithful redeemer—He redeems our errors and covers our sin.

The first ingredient to parenting is humble, unconditional love. We must by grace and the Holy Spirit’s assistance, love our kids the way God loves us—He never gives up on us. We must always hope and believe in our children. Sometimes love takes on different forms of behavior—this means—tough love is sometimes necessary.

At times I marvel at how complex parenting really is. Parenting is a letting go adventure. These children are born to us, of our own flesh and blood—and we lovingly train them to grow up—leave us—and live their own lives.

Parenting, from the very first hour, demands complete reliance on God. I am so thankful to have an all knowing, all loving, all understanding One to lean on. Prayerfully depending on God is imperative. Since raising children is a lifelong commitment with so many ups, downs and curves—all scripture applies.

One of the things I know—from experience—is we the parents, cannot instruct or impart to our children what we do not ourselves possess. If we want our children to be healthy people of integrity and good character, then we must be as well. There is no room for double-mindedness. Most things are caught rather than taught.

Proverbs—the Book of Skillful Living has crucial advice on parenting—no matter your stage of life.

Let’s look at Proverbs 22 and, with a sincere heart, intentionally live these principles and purpose to teach them to our children and grandchildren.

Verse 1—“A good name is to be chosen rather than great riches, loving favor rather than silver and gold.”

• Taking on the name of Christ—invaluable
• God’s favor—vital

Verse 2—“The rich and the poor have this in common; the Lord is the maker of them all.”

• Identity is found in Christ alone

Verse 4—“By humility and the fear of the Lord are riches and honor and life.”

• Humility and the fear of the Lord are high priorities to God
• The fear of the Lord inherit within a person helps them to love and obey God and parents
• Honoring God aids us in honoring our self and others, as well as authority

Verse 5, 3, 8, 10, 24, 25—“Thorns and snares are in the way of the perverse; he who guards his soul will be far from them.”

• Guarding your soul from evil is crucial to a successful life

Verse 6—“Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it.”

• We can never stop pouring God’s love and Word into our kids. I’ve seen this dynamic take place in the life of my 2^nd son. When he gave up living for himself and surrendered to God—all that had been poured into his heart as a child never departed—God’s Word is timeless, alive and active, it never sleeps but always accomplishes what God sets out to do.
• Love the church and teach kids the same

Verses 11 & 14—“He who loves purity of heart and has grace on his lips, the king will be his friend.” “The mouth of an immoral woman is a deep pit; he who is abhorred by the Lord will fall there.”

• A love for purity and grace are never overrated
• Friendship with the King—highly valuable!

Verse15—“Foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child; the rod of correction will drive it far from him.” Proverbs 29:15, Proverbs 23:13-14, Proverbs 29:17, Proverbs 13:24

• The Word repeatedly warns—If we love our children we will discipline them
• Loving discipline and correction will create healthy adults
• Warning to fathers: Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged. (Colossians 3:21) Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord. (Ephesians 6:4)

Verses 18 & 19—“Incline your ear and hear the words of the wise, and apply your heart to my knowledge; for it is a pleasant thing if you keep them within you; let them all be fixed upon your lips, so that your trust may be in the Lord”

• Preserve wisdom, knowledge and trust in your heart
• Teach kids to bind themselves to Godly wisdom

Verse 29 & 13—“Do you see a man who excels in his work? He will stand before kings; He will not stand before unknown men.”

• God seriously does not approve of slothful behavior
• Diligently teach Children diligence
• A good work ethic is priceless

Skillful Living Tools:

• Children are a heritage and reward—enjoy them!
• Children are a huge responsibility—train them in the ways of the Lord
• Read and apply the instruction manual—the Bible
• Pray without ceasing
• Teach kids to prayerfully depend on God
• Teach integrity and Godly moral character
• Do not be double minded
• Teach kids to be single focused—God first
• Love never fails—unconditionally love the kids God gifted to you
• Fathers, do not provoke your children
• Love the church and teach kids the same

Please be encouraged to surrender your parenting to God and His Word—trusting Him for all the answers.

Side Note: God is redeeming the struggling, wayward child—no matter their age. My heart knows the anguish of watching your child self-destruct. My advice to you—keep your heart focused on God. Find peace and rest for your heart, in relationship with Him for He cares for you and can carry your burden, if you will just give it to Him. I am praying for you and your children.

Read and apply all of Proverbs 22 and please share with those who need to live skillfully!

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And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise. Deuteronomy 6:6-7

Skillful Living 101—18 Our Strong Tower

A life that is lived skillfully would most definitely be a life lived in God’s presence.

Proverbs 18:10, describes God as a strong tower where the righteous run in and are safe. I love how compassionate and loving God is, that He provides a place where we can find refuge and peace. This refuge is not just any old place—no, our place of security is in the very presence of God.

One way to understanding God’s presence is to see it as a shelter, a fortress and a hiding place. A dwelling—where our life is hidden in God, not that we necessarily hide from life, but an actual place where we live life.

Colossians 2:3 says

Set your mind on things above, not on things on the earth. For you died, and your life is hidden with Christ in God.

Proverbs—the book of skillful living, is all about setting our mind on things above and not on the things of the earth. Living a life hidden with Christ in God, helps us to rise above earthy circumstances—rise above trivial—setting our heart and soul on the most important—the things of God.

A good way to remain diligent in living skillfully—thus setting our mind on things above is to make living in God’s presence our daily objective. In doing so we must grab a hold of His Word—making it our source of nourishment.

In Proverbs 18, we find a myriad of good advice and nourishment. Granted the whole chapter is beneficial but we will look at six main points, found in verses 10, 15, 19, 21, 22 and 24.

Verse 10—“The name of the Lord is a strong tower; the righteous run to it and are safe.”

• The righteous make God their refuge
• God is our help

Verse 15—“The heart of the prudent acquires knowledge, and the ear of the wise seeks knowledge.”

• A sensible person esteems knowledge
• To set our mind on things above, we must pursue biblical knowledge
• The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge

Verse 19—“A brother offended is harder to win than a strong city, and contentions are like the bars of a castle.”

• An offended person, whether they be right or wrong, is harder to talk to, and work things out with, than a fortified city
• It’s better to pray and wait—rather than argue with an offended person
• Remember offence is a choice—we must keep our heart free of offence

Verse 21—“Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruit.”

• Our words will bring life our death to those on whom they fall
• If we love gossip and slander, we will reap its rewards
• We need to make habit of speaking life into people and situations
• Controlling our tongue is a heart issue

Verse 22—“He who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor from the Lord.”

• A spouse is a blessing from the Lord
•  We have to be good stewards of God’s blessings

Verse 23—“A man who has friends must himself be friendly, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.”

• First be a friend
• Faithfulness is priceless

Skillful Living Tools

• Make it your daily objective to live in God’s presence
• Learn to know God’s presence as a shelter, refuge, a fortress and a hiding place
• Set your mind on things above, not on things on the earth
• Grab a hold of God’s Word—making it your source of nourishment.
• To set our mind on things above, we must pursue biblical knowledge
• It’s better to pray and wait— rather than argue with an offended person
• Death and life are in the power of the tongue
• Make habit of speaking life into people and situations
• Treat your spouse good—they are a blessing from God
• A faithful friend is priceless

Please be encouraged to seek God as your strong tower and place of refuge—here your heart can settle and be at peace.

Read and apply all of Proverbs 18 and please share with those who need to live skillfully!

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Skillful Living 101—13 Correction

Correction. A common thread throughout Proverbs 13.

It seems an almost unacceptable concept and such an abrasive word these days. We live in a culture that does not want to be corrected, convicted or disciplined—no just pacified with an extreme illusion of grace.

Don’t get me wrong, I am a grace person—I couldn’t live without it. In my less mature stages of life, I used grace—basically as a pass to do what I wanted and to view Christianity from my own narrow perspective. As I’ve grown in understanding of the fear of the Lord and the Bible, I now know grace to be the wind beneath the wings, of my obedience to God’s will.

Proverbs 13 starts and ends with guidance on discipline, obedience, correction and rebuke. By now we see that the entire book of Skillful Living (Proverbs) is saturated with scriptures referring to these topics. The Lord is speaking to us— instructing us, for our own good, to be wise and embrace understanding, discipline, correction, rebuke and instruction.

The following six verses from Proverbs 13 portray the importance of submitting to correction.

Verse 1—A wise child accepts a parent’s discipline; a mocker refuses to listen to correction.

Verse 10—Pride leads to conflict; those who take advice are wise.

Verse 13—People who despise advice are asking for trouble; those who respect a command will succeed.

Verse 14—The instruction of the wise is like a life-giving fountain; those who accept it avoid the snares of death.

Verse 18—Poverty and shame will come to him who disdains correction, but he who regards a rebuke will be honored. (NKJ)

Verse 24—Those who spare the rod of discipline hate their children. Those who love their children care enough to discipline them.

Proverbs 13:24 bluntly states, if parents do not discipline their children—then they hate them! Pretty drastic don’t you think? Let’s face it—God’s Word is radical. (To be honest that’s one reason I love it so much!)

Some may protest—how can God the Father, the God of love, discipline or rebuke His children??? Essentially it’s because of love that He disciplines us—otherwise He’d hate us!

God the Father cares enough for us that He will discipline, convict, correct and rebuke us, so that we can be humble and wise. Please do not get caught up in the devil’s plan and get offended by this.

Hebrews 12:7
As you endure this divine discipline, remember that God is treating you as his own children. Who ever heard of a child who is never disciplined by its father?

Proverbs 3:12
My child, don’t reject the Lord’s discipline, and don’t be upset when he corrects you.  For the Lord corrects those he loves, just as a father corrects a child in whom he delights.

It’s truth—it’s Bible!

Be encouraged to embrace God’s love by accepting correction—you’ll be all the wiser if you do!

Skillful Living Tools:

• Embrace God’s correction
• View grace as that which helps you obey God’s will
• Be humble—take advice
• Respect a command
• Accept instruction—avoid the snares of death
• Regard a rebuke and be honored
• Love your children enough to discipline them
• Stay clear of offense
• Endure divine discipline
• Don’t get upset when God corrects you

Please share with those who need to live skillfully!

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Skillful Living 101—9 Wisdom’s Invitation

You are cordially invited

Wisdom has skillfully constructed her home and set an elaborate table. Serving a delightful well calculated cuisine—delicious, nourishing and satisfying; most importantly this menu is abundantly available to all who will listen.

Following is your personal invitation from Proverbs 9:4-8:

“Are you confused about life, don’t know what’s going on? Come with me, oh come, have dinner with me! I’ve prepared a wonderful spread—fresh-baked bread, roast lamb, carefully selected wines. Leave your impoverished confusion and live! Walk up the street to a life with meaning.” (The Message)

Once again Proverbs summons us to take a hold of wisdom. Sometimes it’s easy to tune the invitation out, thinking “I’m okay, I have an ample amount of wisdom” But 1 Corinthians 1:25 says, “The foolishness of God is wiser than men” Take the very wisest of all human beings and compare them to God. If God were foolish, His foolishness would be even wiser than the wisest of all men.

We will never be above accepting wisdom’s invitation; it will do us well to embrace all the wisdom God has to offer.

For example—we need wisdom to digest Proverbs 9:7-9.  In our human intelligent, if we consider ourselves wise, than we may feel as if we can’t be taught. Proverbs 9:7-9 says, an unwise person will not accept instruction, but instruct a wise person and they will be wiser still. Teach or rebuke a righteous person and they will increase in learning. Verse 8 goes as far as to say “Do not correct a scoffer, lest he hate you; Rebuke a wise man, and he will love you”

Amongst the array of delicacies at wisdom’s banqueting table, we find the capacity to live a humble lifestyle. A humble person welcomes instruction, is teachable and accepts rebuke and correction—no matter their age or position in life.

In Proverbs 9:10-12, the invitation is extended once again to fear the Lord. Why? Because…

“The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom, and the knowledge of the Holy One is understanding”

Wisdom’s invitation to fear the lord will keep us from folly. In verse 13-18 of Proverbs 9, the voice of folly sends out an invitation as well. Wooing the unassuming, impersonating the voice of wisdom—saying, “’Whoever is simple, let him turn in here.’ And as for him who lacks understanding, she says to him, ‘Stolen water is sweet, and bread eaten in secret is pleasant.’ But he does not know that the dead are there, that her guests are in the depths of hell”

God in His kindness has extended His invitation to embrace wisdom. Be encouraged to accept.

Skillful Living Tools:

• Tune your heart to hear and embrace wisdom’s invitation
• Be wise and accept instruction, teaching and rebuke
• Live humbly
• Fear the Lord
• Resist folly

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Skillful Living 101—8 Wisdom’s Excellence

The Excellence of Wisdom

Wisdom, insight and understanding sound their request. Let all who have a heart to hear—pay attention to the excellence of wisdom.

What is the excellence of wisdom? Nothing less than Christ.

As we read Proverbs 8, it’s as Christ Himself is calling to the very core of our being, saying listen—my words are plain, give ear to understanding, use good judgment, do not be foolish, but embrace Me—behold wisdom and live.

Wisdom’s value is priceless, of more worth than gold, silver and precious jewels.

What do you desire most? Proverbs 8:11 shamelessly states, nothing we desire can compare with wisdom. That’s a huge declaration, one to ponder.

Take that which is of greatest desire to you, feel its worth—and know that the scripture says wisdom is of greater value.

Be stirred to make an exchange with God—that which you desire, for that which God desires for you—Christ the excellence of wisdom and the fruit of His righteousness.

Proverbs 8:17-18 coincides with Matthew 6:33, they pronounce;

“I love those who love me, and those who seek me diligently will find me. Riches and honor are with me, enduring riches and righteousness.”

“Seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.” Matthew 6:33

It really is simple, but most difficult for our flesh; seek Him first and He adds all things, according to His will, to you. Our human mind wants to reason how can this simple daily choice of seeking God first help me?

Listen…wisdom is calling…instructing us to choose to seek Him first.
Hear with faith…tune your spiritual ears.

Proverbs 8:19 articulates that the profit of choosing Him first is superior over any other choice.

“My fruit is better than gold, yes, than fine gold, and my revenue than choice silver.”

Verse 34 offers a nugget of truth on seeking Him—that will change your life.  It says, watch daily at His gates and wait at His door post.

Watch for the Lord—wait for Him, He will come. Jesus is the wisdom of God, He fills every need—every day!

If you want blessings, favor and life from the Lord, simply keep His ways, hear His instruction and make your heart His home.

Proverbs 8:33-36 “Now therefore, listen to me, my children, for blessed are those who keep my ways. Hear instruction and be wise, and do not disdain it. Blessed is the man who listens to me, watching daily at my gates, waiting at the posts of my doors. For whoever finds me finds life, and obtains favor from the Lord; but he who sins against me wrongs his own soul; all those who hate me love death.”

Be encouraged to read Proverbs 8 with the perspective of wisdom being Christ—it will bless you!

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Skillful Living Tools:

• Ask for the revelation of Christ as the wisdom of God
• Seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness
• Keep His ways
• Listen to instruction and be wise
• Watch and wait for the Lord

Skillful Living 101—5 Adultery

In Proverbs 5, we take a sincere look at marriage and the number one ploy of the devil to destroy God’s plan for marriage. In Proverbs 5:1-2, the Word cautions all young men to be wise and refrain from lust and immorality. “My son, pay attention to my wisdom; lend your ear to my understanding, that you may preserve discretion, and your lips may keep knowledge.” Four words in this verse are of the utmost importance for men to consider and to apply to their life; wisdom, understanding, discretion and knowledge. According to the scripture men who grab a hold and own these principles will be able to avoid immoral behavior. Men, young and old, do well to pay attention to Proverbs 5. God’s heart for men is that they would rule and subdue the earth. He desires men to humbly love Him, to find Him as Lord and source of their strength. God offers wisdom, understanding, discretion and knowledge in abundance—it’s for the asking. The righteous man only needs to abandon pride, recognize his weakness and partake in all that God has to offer. God is searching for men who will lead by godly behavior—the church, the world, wives and children long for men who will rise to the occasion abandoning costly, destructive actions. Satan on the other hand, sits and applauds while church going men cower to his plan for marriage. Proverbs 5:3-11, uncovers the truth about the immoral woman. She is bitter, sharp, her feet are attached to death, her steps lead to hell and she is unstable. It warns men to remove their way far from her—do not even go near her house, unless you want to give your years to the cruel one. Basically Satan will own you—you will be his tool, if you visit her home and in indulge in her lies. Verses 12-14, relays the gut wrenching, remorseful words men speak after visiting her bed. “How I have hated instruction and my heart despised correction! I have not obeyed the voice of my teachers, nor inclined my ear to those who instructed me!” Verses 15-19, counsels men on the truth of their marriage, telling men “Let your wife be a fountain of blessing for you. Rejoice in the wife of your youth.” Asking in verse 20 “Why should you, my son, be enraptured by an immoral woman, and be embraced in the arms of a seductress?” Adultery—sad to say, is common—even in our churches. Not only does it do the obvious—destroy the covenant of marriage, but destroys God’s plan for the lonely—family. Scripture says God hates divorce but gave it for the hard hearted and only on the grounds of adultery. (Matthew 19:3-9) Satan rejoices when families are devastated by divorce. And that’s not all, Satan is after the strong—the men; he desires to sap away their manhood, steal their faith and lead them to hell. Proverbs 5:21, enlightens us, “For the ways of man are before the eyes of the Lord, and He ponders all his paths.” This verse is water to a thirsty soul. It’s refreshing to be reminded that the God who made heaven and earth sees us and ponders our path. Caring God watches over us, yearning for relationship. That’s what these warnings in Proverbs are all about—a loving God mapping out the pitfalls of life. Cautioning the men of God to avoid foolishness and steer clear of Satan’s plan for their life. Proverbs 5 ends with verses 22-23, telling what will happen to those who do not heed instruction. “His own iniquities entrap the wicked man, and he is caught in the cords of his sin. He shall die for lack of instruction, and in the greatness of his folly he shall go astray.” The Message version of the bible says it this way, “The shadow of your sin will overtake you; you’ll find yourself stumbling all over yourself in the dark. Death is the reward of an undisciplined life; your foolish decisions trap you in a dead-end.” Death is the reward for an undisciplined life—this is true for all of us. I pray our heart would embrace the ways of God. That the men of God would take heed to God’s Word allowing wisdom, understanding, discretion and knowledge to guide them. Most of all I pray that we fall deeper in love with Jesus, craving His presence and living accordingly. Everyone has a relationship with a man, whether it be your husband, son, father, brother or friend. Please be encouraged to cover them in prayer—the enemy is a roaring lion seeking whom he may devour. We must be vigilant. I understand men are not the only ones who commit adultery, women are susceptible as well and many men have been wounded by their wives committing the sin of adultery. Proverbs 5 is for both genders, please apply it accordingly. A note to those who have been devastated by adultery: Lean into to Jesus, He is enough for all your pain and rejection. God will heal you and fill in all your gaps, He will enlarge your heart and help you to find freedom in forgiveness. Skillful Living Tools for Men:

• Grab a hold and apply wisdom, understanding, discretion and knowledge to your life.
• Humbly love God, find Him as Lord and source of your strength.
• Remove your way far from the immoral woman—do not even go near her house.
• Obey the 7th commandment—Do not commit adultery.
• Rejoice in the wife of your youth.
• Abandon pride, recognize your weakness and partake in all that God has for you.
• Embrace instruction and correction.

Skillful Living Tools for Women:

• Do not be an immoral woman.
• Do not associate with immoral women.
• Pray without ceasing for the men in your life.

Skillful Living 101—4 Your Life is at Stake

Proverbs 4, titled:  Your Life is at Stake, shows us the intense importance of getting wisdom.  

The book of Proverbs overflows with exhortations urging us to be smart enough to grasp wisdom and apply it to our life. The Proverbs go as far as to say that wisdom will preserve our life both physically and spiritually.

In Proverbs 4:1-13, Solomon implores us to grab a hold of wisdom, telling how his father and mother educated him on the seriousness of getting wisdom. As parents we need to pay close attention and teach our children the key necessities of life.

It’s no wonder when God said to Solomon in 2 Chronicles 1 “What do you want? Ask, and I will give it to you!” Solomon answered “wisdom.” As a result of  Solomon asking God for wisdom to wisely rule His people, God gave him wealth, riches, and fame such as no other king had before him or after him.

Read Proverbs 4, his parents drilled it into him. David, his father knew the importance of making wise choices—his life was a reflection of both the good and the bad—of choosing and not choosing wisdom.

Let’s take this a step further, we have to teach our children not only to get wisdom but to get God—to make Jesus Lord of their heart and life. Wisdom has to lead us to knowing God.

The wisest choice a person can make, is to give up their life and choose a relationship with God.

If our children only know about God and never know Him in a submitted personal relationship—they can end up just as Solomon did. This is true for us parents as well. We have to teach by lifestyle example. Our relationship with God has to go beyond a quaint Sunday service—truthfully we cannot give away what we don’t have.

Unfortunately Solomon didn’t let wisdom keep him bound to what was of the utmost importance—a lifelong sold out heart.

Skillful Living Tool for Parenting:  Know God yourself. Drill the importance of wisdom into your children—pray it leads them to know God personally.

Proverbs was written when Solomon was at the height of maturity and power. Proverbs gives us worthy practical guidance. We should not down grade its instruction because of Solomon, but should use it as a skillful living tool—teaching us to always keep our heart loyal to the Lord.

Proverbs 4:14-17, warns us of the hazards that occur when associating with the wicked. What do you think happened to Solomon? Why in his old age did he turn away from the Lord God and worship other gods? Why did he associate with and marry wicked women? (Read 1 Kings 11, it tells of Solomon’s tragic fall.)

It’s hard to fathom someone of such great wisdom being foolish enough to give into idolatry. Nonetheless it happened. His own self-will overrode God’s will for his life. God warned Solomon specifically about worshiping other gods and marrying foreign women, but Solomon did not listen or obey the Lord’s commands. He was captivated by lust and married foreign women who turned his heart away from God and influenced him to worship their gods. Scripture says Solomon’s heart was not loyal to God.

Skillful living tool:  Keep your heart loyal to God.

Proverbs 4:23 says, “Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it spring the issues of life.” Likewise, to live skillfully we need to be very vigilant to what we allow in our home and heart. Solomon did not fall over night but slowly let foreign women into his household, and then his heart—consequently diluting his convictions and eventually persuading his heart to follow their methods for life.

It is also essential that unmarried adults guard who they allow themselves to fall in love with. Similarly parents need to teach their children the importance of marrying someone of common faith, passion and beliefs.

We have to guard what we permit in our home and heart, so we do not compromise our faith and relationship with God

Skillful Living Tool:  Guard your home and your heart.

Another skillful living tool is directed at wives. A wife has amazing influence in the life of her husband. By her words, beliefs and actions she can turn his heart and soul in a good or bad direction. As women we need to love our husbands as we love Christ. We should be an example to him of God’s unconditional love and faithfulness. Always being watchful of our actions—bridging him to Christ and not away.

Skillful Living Tool for Wives:  Be careful in what direction you turn the heart of your husband!

As a result of Solomon turning his heart from God and into idolatry, the kingdom was taken from his lineage and they were only given rule over one tribe. And worse, the people of Israel intermarried and began to worship foreign gods—living lives of idolatry—breaking the first and greatest commandment. Thus began Israel’s demise and eventual exile.

Solomon’s father sinned—but he repented. David never fully turned the worship of his heart away from God. He did suffer the consequences of his sin, yet he continually sought God and His forgiveness. In turn God poured out His grace and mercy upon David. There is no record of Solomon’s repentance, or of him destroying any of the altars he set up for idol worship in Israel.

Skillful Living Tool:  Continually seek God and live a lifestyle of repentance.

The end of Proverbs 4 gives sound advice. Verse 26-27, “Ponder the path of your feet, and let all your ways be established. Do not turn to the right or the left; remove your foot from evil.”

Solomon became lax and compromising in his old age, to the point of not following his own godly wisdom. Now’s a good time to check your own heart, have you allowed anything ungodly to come along side your Christianity? Is there any form of idolatry in your life? If so—be like David—repent and turn.

Please be encouraged to live distraction free—keep your eyes on Jesus, guarding your heart all the days of your life!

Thank you for following along with this series on Skillful Living. Living skillfully is a daily choice for all of us. I hope these insights on Proverbs assist you in decision making. Please share with those who long to live skillfully!

Note:  The Skillful Living Toolbox has its own page! Check it out! To access it, click the tab at the top of this page.

Skillful Living 101—2 Premise to Promises

Living skillfully requires us to accept and give our attention to the instruction of wisdom. The attributes of wisdom unmistakably are the qualities of Christ. The book of Proverbs stirs our hunger for wisdom and Christ satisfies our appetite.

Wisdom described as:
1. Skillfulness in a moral sense; skills for living correctly or craftsmanship.
2. Prudence, comprehensive insight, enlightenment, right application of knowledge.

1 Corinthians 1:24 tells us that Christ is the wisdom of God. That being said, without relationship with Him, wisdom is out of reach. (Read 1 Corinthians 1:18-31)

Basically this sequence of blogs on Proverbs is designed to give us tools for skilful living. I’m always apprehensive to give tools/methods, for fear the methods will be sought instead of God. These are just tools from the Word of God to help you know Him more—the tools are not the answer to life, God is.

This week’s treasure is found in Proverbs 2 titled, The Value of Wisdom. This chapter is full of promises for God’s people however as with most promises in scripture there are premises. A premise is the basis of a promise, similar to an agreement. Example: If you seek then you’ll find, seek is the premise—find is the promise. You won’t find if you don’t seek.

Proverbs 2:1-4, provides us with the three IFS. The IFS are premises to the promises in Proverbs 2:5-9.

Proverbs 2:1-4: Premise

• IF you treasure, receive and apply wisdom to your heart
• IF you ask for insight and understanding of wisdom
• IF you seek and search for wisdom

Proverbs 2:5-9: Promises

• THEN you will understand the fear of the Lord—gain knowledge of God
• THEN you will be given wisdom, knowledge and understanding about life
• THEN you will be a recipient of common sense
• THEN you will make wise and right choices
• THEN you will understand what is right, just and fair
• THEN God will shield, guard and protect your path

Proverbs 2:2 “Tune your ears to the world of Wisdom;
set your heart on a life of Understanding.“

Skillful living insights:
IF you seek God and value wisdom you will know the fear of the Lord.
IF you apply wisdom to your life you will be able to make right choices.

Proverbs 2:10-11, gives the conditions for avoiding the evil behavior illustrated in Proverbs 2:12-19.

Proverbs 2:10-11

• WHEN wisdom enters your heart and knowledge is pleasant to you
• THEN wise choices will watch over you and understanding will keep you safe

Proverbs 2:12-19

• Wisdom will save you from evil people
• Wisdom will save you from immorality

Skillful living tools: Wisdom and understanding keep you pure.

The last part of this chapter informs us that only those who follow God’s ways will make it. Not because He isn’t willing to pardon sin, but because of unwillingness to repent.

Proverbs 2:20-22

• Stay on the straight and narrow path—learn to love this path
• The godly, blameless, and those with integrity will remain
• The dishonest, deceitful and unfaithful will be uprooted

Skillful living tools: Bend your will to God’s will—learn to love His ways.

Please read Proverbs 2 for yourself, asking God to reveal it to you. Thanks for following this series, as we read and apply proverbs to our life, God will increase our skillful living abilities.

Below you’ll find a tool box with skillful living tools and insights. Each week new tools will be added. Eventually I may give the Tool Box it’s own blog page and update it weekly but for now it will be at the end of each blog post.

Skillful Living Tools and Insights to be applied to life.
TOOL BOX

Proverbs 1

• There is no wisdom apart from God.
• Fear the Lord.
• To parent wisely, follow Proverbs 1:7.
• Wisdom comes by responding to instruction.
• Respond to God’s instruction and you will know how to respond in any situation.

Proverbs 2

• IF you seek God and value wisdom you will know the fear of the Lord.
• IF you apply wisdom to your life you will be able to make right choices.
• Wisdom and understanding keep you pure.
• Bend your will to God’s will—learn to love His ways.

Skillful Living 101—1 The Manual for Living

Have you ever longed for a manual on how to do life? Craved insight on how to raise and nurture kids? Do you ever just ache for a method for relating to teens? Asked for techniques to communicate with your spouse? Wondered what to say and how to respond in various situations? Yearned for procedures on how to keep living when life stops or hurts? How to find a spouse? How to keep a spouse? How to get and maintain a job? How to live on less? How to avoid foolishness? The list is endless.

God has dropped an idea into my heart. The idea unfolds as a sequence of blogs on skillful living. I’ve heard it said that Proverbs is the manual for skillful living. This sequence will elaborate on Proverbs—“The Manual for living” as The Message version of the Bible has so appropriately named it.

The main thing I’ve learned about life, took 25 years to learn. Nonetheless I am very appreciative for the truth I now understand. The truth is: I, Regina Forest—in the flesh—know one thing or maybe its two things—that I do not know anything, but God, who lives in me, knows everything. He is the Living Word, wise, alive, active and discerning; therefore I as I abide Him—His attributes become mine.

To live skillfully, it’s essential to have relationship with God and by His grace to heed His Word.

I will try to make these blogs as small morsels of information to be savored. I hope to breakdown certain proverbs and plainly explain them (with the help of the Holy Spirit, of course!). Hopefully this will help ordinary people like you and I to understand and apply the instruction given to us in the book of Proverbs.

We should view the book of Proverbs as a chest full of treasure, where each nugget and gem are available to enhance our life—assisting us to live skillfully. Everyone needs a little help with the how to’s of life…I know I do!

Enough said, now let’s get started…

Proverbs 1:1-6 states: applying the principles in Proverbs causes us to gain:

• Wisdom and instruction for sensible behavior
• To know justice
• Gives knowledge and discretion to the young (much needed)
• Adds learning to the wise (also much needed)
• Gives us understanding about proverbs and parables

Skillful living tool: There is no wisdom apart from God.

Right off the bat Proverbs 1:7 describes the first rule in skillful living:

• We must fear the Lord
• Only fools despise wisdom

Proverbs 1:7 as articulated in The Message, “Start with God—the first step in learning is bowing down to God; only fools thumb their noses at such wisdom and learning.” (Good advice!)

Skillful living tool: Fear the Lord.

Proverbs 1:8-19 truthfully says, kids honor your parents, it also expresses the importance of good parenting:

• Pay attention to your father’s words
• Remember your mother’s teachings
• Pick your friends wisely “Bad company corrupts good character.” 1 Corinthians 15:33

Parenting insight: To parent wisely, follow Proverbs 1:7.

Proverbs 1:20-33 expresses the truth:

• Wisdom is available to everyone
• Being unwise (stupid) is a choice
• The unwise make themselves miserable. Proverbs 1:22 asks, how long will you hate knowledge and understanding?
• Repent from foolishness, and wisdom will be poured out on you
• Pride will keep you living like a fool. Proverbs 1:29-31 “Since they hated knowledge and did not choose to fear the Lord. Since they would not accept my advice and spurned my rebuke, they will eat the fruit of their ways and be filled with the fruit of their schemes.”
• Whoever listens to wisdom will live skillfully and be in peace.

Practical insight: Wisdom comes by responding to instruction. Respond to God’s instruction and you will know how to respond in any situation.

Please prayerfully read Proverbs 1 for yourself, ask God to illuminate it to you. Also, ask for the grace to apply His Word— so you can skillfully live your life.

Thanks for reading, please share with those who need a “Manual for Living”. Comments welcomed!